My missus has the patience of a saint. I've been running around UK / Europe for best part of the last 30 years, and she's used used to the Q) 'what time are you home for dinner', A) 'next Thursday', routine.
As for the Louis Vuiton...the Export Sales guy at one of my previous employers, only ever travelled with one Tesco carrier bag, with sufficient stuff for a few hours. He'd then pick up any cheap old tat at the other end, and bin it before his return.
''Never try to teach a pig to sing; it wastes your time and it annoys the pig.” Robert Heinlein.
The LV is not for me you wooly woofta.
It's for her.
she has at least 6 to my knowledge, and the origional one from 30 years ago, is still in as good nick as the latest one.
And don't go looking in the sales, They don't have one, they never have.
Tescos !!!!??? I'd be rail roaded out of Richmond, tarred and feathered if I was seen with a tescos bag.
Bloody Shires peoples !!!!!
no it's for selfish bastards who don't give a toss how it feels to be a woman alone at home bringing up the kids running a house and doing 500 other things whilst you run about pretending your hero's so yes YOU are all selfish
Though one of the main components of a working relationship would be having an open communication, I would likely consider long distance relationships to work as long as both parties are committed and true to themselves.
It would be hard if only one side is working to make it work while the other goes out and make things seem like there is nothing going and brewing.
I have worked away all my working life, first in the army and then the oil and gas industry. I dont really think there is anything to cope with. If you feel your having to "Cope" then I would suggest there's an element of insecurity either within yourself or in the relationship. I would say working away has strengthened our relationship and has grown stronger over the years.
If I did not work the way I do I could never have given my kids the life they have.
To change a relationship mid flow, is not the same as having a routine, where you are away Consistently from the get go.
The dynamics, stresses and strains, the removal of the physical and moral support would be a shock to any marriage or partnership.
One is the norm, the other takes time and effort to get used to.
To enter an absentee marriage from the start, will often involve a natural support system forming around the new bride, as it did in my case and my wife, friends and family are formed from the outset to offer support and grow with that relationship in a kinship bond as such.
It naive to say if you feel you can't cope is an insecurity, then I think you are way off the mark.
To adjust from a shared responsibility to a lone yoke as such, is a dramatic change in anyones book.
Long gone are the days when we got married or left home and lived locally to our kith and kin.
Partners/wives and girlfriends can and often do feel abandoned
You and i seem to have been lucky in the strengths of our partners, that's more down to her in my case than any real input from me.
As regards giving your kids a better life, a better start.
My are now all grown, married and left home.
But when asked about their childhoods and how they felt about it, and what could have been done different.
They all heart wrenchingly say, they would have liked more time with me.
Then they say is there any chance of topping up that loan I gave them.
Life/work balance it's a tough one, and not always the easy answer we think it is, It's not always about the money it seems.