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colonel45155

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My wife has a half brother she has never met, she dosen't know anything about him except that her dad had an affair and the social services took the child from the hospital at birth, I'm awaiting word from the Social services but not holding out much hope from them. I'm wondering what's the best way of helping her get in contact with her brother?
 
colonel45155 said:
My wife has a half brother she has never met, she dosen't know anything about him except that her dad had an affair and the social services took the child from the hospital at birth, I'm awaiting word from the Social services but not holding out much hope from them. I'm wondering what's the best way of helping her get in contact with her brother?
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Maybe he doesn't want to be found.
He's old enough no doubt to make his own enquiries.
Have you tried the regular paths via the sally army etc.
Some have found a very frosty, if not hostile response to their enquiries.
People often don't like to be thought of as unwanted, unloved and little more than a dirty little secret.
Think hard and long before circumnavigating the regulated paths of enquiry.
They are there to protect the innocents of life.
 
Thanks for the reply Paddy sadly she has no name or DOB, she has only found out recently about him, this is a needle in a haystack job, "maybe he dosen't want to be found" that's quite possible but maybe he dosen't know he has a sister either, maybe he dosen't even know he's adopted and if that's the case maybe it's better to let sleeping dogs lie. My wife's 39 and all she knows is that her brother's younger... Great start hey? I do agree with your point Oddjob, I'm just an innocent bystander and to be honest it's nothing really to do with me except wifey wants to find out. I hadn't even thought of Sally Army, thanks.
 
Mate try the county council adoption agency, they will have a record of everyone that has been adopted. They will have the records of every adoption agency. They will collect any info, then if they find the person they will contact them to see if they want to be contacted. Not even a year, not even the parents surname? Try building a family tree and fill the names in even relatives etc, someone will know something.....you might have to talk to them alone as back in the day un married mothers were frown upon, not talked about. Good luck
 
If the adoption was in the 60/70s then the new parents would have had to go to court to be classed as suitable parents and given the legal status of the child....there wIll be court records of the meeting, social services would have vetted the new parents that will be on the county records.
 
I'm born in '73, wifey in '74, so she's guessing bro is born in the 70's, (being younger than her prob '75 - '80) We still know nothing about him.

She knows the bros Mothers name, that's it and she says the mum didn't even name him, I asked about a birth certificate but as far as she knows there is none that was done by his mother, I don't know why??

I don't know how to help her.

Do you know if N.Ireland records work the same as mainland? Thanks for your reply.
 
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